folks get together
consume food and beverages
never speak againI try to not date as often as most. In Homotopia the concept of seeing someone more than once is an idea that is not prevalent in the society. Whether it's spoken or not, the majority of us are just looking to get a nut and bounce.
Let's discuss that for a moment, getting a nut and bouncing. If you look good and they look good enough, all that's needed is a place to fuck. Conversation is usually at a minimum and any kind of social outing is virtually unheard of. (Yes, I've ended a sentence with a preposition, I am aware. Thanks!)
If the sex was good and they looked better than their pictures, you might contact them again, otherwise, well you've been there, the motherfucker is ghost. Why do we do what we do? Quite frankly because the next nigga look better than you or as good as you with a bigger dick. We, as denizens of Homotopia, are some of the most superficial and judgemental types of people that wander about and pollute this filthy cesspool of a celestial rock called Earth. From my tone, I gather that you can imagine where I'm coming from.
As an educated pseudo-Hispanic hybrid, I have been thru it quite a few times. I have no problem with "fuck and bounce", on the contrary I've become quite good at it. I understand the fundamentals and how to conduct oneself. Why then, when social outings are involved and the night ends with a sexual romp do I become confused?
Imagine, imagine for a moment that there is a horrible website out there that caters to those in Homotopia disguising itself as a networking community. (Yeah, I know, who the fuck am I kidding!) You begin talking to someone online -- someone you recognise from another location found online, but years back -- a location you would pay to access. Now as you're talking to him he seems down to earth and genuinely like someone you would like to get to know. You keep your knowledge of his sordid past to yourself because, really, who wants that brought up without it being awkward.
Days go by, you're still talking, and he suggests that you both go out for dinner, dinner and not a fuck. That's refreshing, you think he's not jus looking to bust and go. Pretty good, perhaps this might be a date, something you rarely do because of past experiences. The date is set and gears in motion.
That day, messages are exchanged to finalise plans and you decide to meet at
The Den of Sin because it's happy hour. You get there and wait for him to arrive. He comes into the bar looking all fresh with nice eyes and your night begins.
At the bar a conversation ensues -- family life, dreams and aspirations, thoughts on homo relationships and how monogamy rarely works. Ideas that you yourself identify with.
The movie you were to see starts in a few hours, so you wrap up drinks and make for the restaurant. You get to a nice Italian place in Chelsea that he swears by. Coming from an Italian background, you know what it should and should not be, so as such, you're skeptical. As you're waiting for the food, conversation continues, the bottle of wine become half full, quarter full and then empty. Meanwhile his sister joins us at the end of dinner because she's in the area and wanted to say hello.
She's cool peoples and he's comfortable with family around you, so where is the train wreck? The evening seems to be going pretty good. Instead of going to the movies, he suggests that you make your way back to his place.
Perhaps this is the mistake I made -- should you sleep with someone on the first date?
Well after he failed to get his sister to go out, you all pile into the cab and make your way to his home. Kissing and touching began and one thing led to another. Everything seemed to flow. With no indication that there was a problem, you both get your nut and part ways.
Sounds nice, right? Let's throw in some crazy nut swapping and comments that basically would be found in some Latino Fan Club production that will never be produced because there was actual emotion behind it. How can it be that after a nice evening and some carnal sex, how could it be that everything was a mental construct in my head?
Could I seriously be that disillusioned -- could my ill-fated attempts at dating truly be a waste of time and effort?
I've yet to hear from him -- for better or otherwise. Some semblance of closure would be nice. I mean if you're not feeling me aiite, I had fun. If you are feeling me then what the fuck? I'm not mad, just a little confused.
It's times like this when I wish I could just settle for anything instead of looking for greener grass on the other side. I'm either going to go thru it, miserable and alone, or go thru it miserable and with someone next to me in bed.
"Of course you fuck on the first date! How else do you know if the second one is worth your time?!" ~ My Sophomore Roommate, Cam