This post is a comment response to T-Montez's Blog titled "No Fats, No Femmes"...
profile online
a shadow of your true self
will they find out tho?
I've been visiting that god awful website since Puerto Rican Surprise brought it to my attention, and while it offers the ease and convenience of shopping around for your next lay i've come to be very careful about the people that you find there and what they have to say. I think that might be a run-on sentence, but regardless... lol. The great thing about the horrible website is also its downfall -- that you can showcase what you believe are your best features, or at least the best features that will garner a response from a potential fuck. The only down side is that once these people start to get to know you outside of the limited 500 letters you provided in your profile, they begin to fill in the rest based on stereotypes.
This guy started talkin' to u cuz he was feelin' your profile, ok cool. You started to get to know each other and he took up enough interest to read what you had to say. Because online is a cold and emotionless medium, when he saw you describe yourself as effeminate he superimposed his definition over your word. Now while you're not Karamo from the Real World, you sure as hell aren't some queen in the street either. With him coming out and saying he's not into fems you can't really take it personally because it is his preference and while it might seem like a rejection, it's really not because certain things turn people on and others people off. but there's a silver lining -- he chatted with you long enuf to get to know what you were into and ya'll shared a lot of mutual interests, so he was willing to continue chatting online. with communication still open, you have the chance to orchestrate a real life meetup where he well then realize that you're no more fem than you are white.
It's one thing to have effeminate characteristics, it's another thing to be a kunty queen who thinks he's a bitch. Our society today has become too fixated on labels and passes over everyone who might be in a subset they might otherwise shy away from. with out labels there wouldn't be half the problems that we have in america today. For example, you jus come out to your friend, now they know you gay, and they treat you mad different afterwards. Regardless of the "gay" label that's been associated to you know, you're still the same person as the day before. people need to get over their short-sighted behavior and start to know people for who they are -- individuals -- each unique and irreplaceable.
Chulo's always got love for his T-Montez...
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- Chulo
- Bronx, NY, The Nation of Chulo, United States
- I've become lost in this veritable assortment of random events called life. Trapped within a geographical location that is both wonderful and exciting and lonely and swine flu infested at the same time. As each day passes, I become more jaded with human beings as a whole and I hope that the promise of good in mankind is not fully lost. I'm opinionated and quick to speak before I fully think things thru. Naturally a leader, I've taken a back seat and as of late would rather enjoy the ride. I enjoy politics and think that Bloomburg is over-rated. I recently heard his bilingual campaign commercial on La Mega and this guy can't speak Spanish. I mean I can't speak Spanish, but this guy, he makes me look like a fresh of the yola Dominican. Que es una YOLA? You ask? Un Pequeño bote / lancha hecha de madera que causa la muerte de nuestra gente. So don't get on one. I've always been a thinker, and as such, I tend to overanalyze everything, so if we're hanging out and I appear slow and retarded, I'm not, just caught up in thought and pensive. Holler at me if you want to know more, otherwise, you know what to do.